Please pardon my absence. I have gone on a transformational journey to explore my innermost wants and desires in effort to offer myself a taste of completeness. I have sought to be submerged in nature, the company of good friends and family, as well as to delve into that which I wish to pursue the most: fulfilling a purpose.
In an attempt to live life in love, an old moral compass of mine, I have found that everything is at times completely underwhelming. Those in which you could not envision your life without were not present during your metamorphosis. It is disappointing to find your promise in change, only to have others spite you. I was honestly shocked at responses I received on behalf of my new found happiness after divorce. There were petty comments about my failure, jealous insults regarding my fearlessness, but the most shocking of all was the cliche statements regarding a Prince Charming waiting for me. One individual told me that I would be selfish to not jump into the first relationship that slapped me in the face. Well, that's not exactly verbatim, but the point is the same. I find this logic ridden with flaws. Instead of shoving the idea that I need someone else in my life to offer me stability, love or happiness, maybe the primary focus should be to become the completeness I desire from someone else.
It is critical following the loss of a relationship, regardless if it was the mind-blowing backlash of some shot gun rage or a peaceful separation of ways, to spend time being the person that you expected your partner to be. In doing all the things for yourself that you so much needed from someone else, you will find that you never needed anyone else. I hate the idealistic conception that someone else will complete you. You can be complemented, but to be complete, that's not anyone else's responsibility. Expecting someone else to be your savior makes you a child, incapable of understanding, participating, and actively reciprocating love. Being dependent on another person to give yourself purpose will never satisfy you or your partner. Take responsibility for what you want.
To live in love is impossible. To be the love you wish to see in the world, to touch the hearts of strangers and to give the world hope that there is still some common grace left in the world, that is what's attainable. In pursuit of exploring and experiencing, I have discovered the strength I needed to move past the juvenile mentality of entitlement. Escaping a dead relationship was the key to the open-hearted future promised on a sun kissed summer day.
The most important part of this journey is the self-discovery you will uncover. Finding the old keepsakes in the bottom of boxes, uncovering the adventure in yourself you had forgotten, holding on to that open heart after you have mended the pieces again; these are the things that make waking up with the hope of a tomorrow worth it. Don't let the baggage or the pettiness get to you. Be your own phoenix. Be grateful for the strength you have derived against the odds. It is all a blessing, and the happiness will find you and terrify you in the most thrilling ways when you least expect it. Cheers to continual, everlasting growth and may you always find enlightenment in unsuspecting situations.
It is critical following the loss of a relationship, regardless if it was the mind-blowing backlash of some shot gun rage or a peaceful separation of ways, to spend time being the person that you expected your partner to be. In doing all the things for yourself that you so much needed from someone else, you will find that you never needed anyone else. I hate the idealistic conception that someone else will complete you. You can be complemented, but to be complete, that's not anyone else's responsibility. Expecting someone else to be your savior makes you a child, incapable of understanding, participating, and actively reciprocating love. Being dependent on another person to give yourself purpose will never satisfy you or your partner. Take responsibility for what you want.
To live in love is impossible. To be the love you wish to see in the world, to touch the hearts of strangers and to give the world hope that there is still some common grace left in the world, that is what's attainable. In pursuit of exploring and experiencing, I have discovered the strength I needed to move past the juvenile mentality of entitlement. Escaping a dead relationship was the key to the open-hearted future promised on a sun kissed summer day.
The most important part of this journey is the self-discovery you will uncover. Finding the old keepsakes in the bottom of boxes, uncovering the adventure in yourself you had forgotten, holding on to that open heart after you have mended the pieces again; these are the things that make waking up with the hope of a tomorrow worth it. Don't let the baggage or the pettiness get to you. Be your own phoenix. Be grateful for the strength you have derived against the odds. It is all a blessing, and the happiness will find you and terrify you in the most thrilling ways when you least expect it. Cheers to continual, everlasting growth and may you always find enlightenment in unsuspecting situations.
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